The Bully

There are times in life where you might find yourself totally tied up with work and yet people keep finding fault in you and criticize your work all over place. Just sarcasm and no empathy whatsoever. You feel like you have been trapped in the middle of some world-stage called Bully, what do you do? 



You feel so put off, you feel like just getting out of there or maybe stealing the family-sedan for a long night drive or maybe to find a nice stone to relax on and stare at a dusty silent river flowing, all just to get the feel, the sense of "moving on..." only to return back to the world more recharged and ready. 

"One man caught on a barbed wire fence 

One man he resist

One man washed on an empty beach.

One man betrayed with a kiss



In the name of love

What more in the name of love

In the name of love

What more in the name of love

 

Early morning, April 4

Shot rings out in the Memphis sky

Free at last, they took your life 

They could not take your pride"

- 

In the name of love by U2

Lovely concert song written for Rev. Martin Luther King Jr. It used to be my college-days anthem song, it reminds me of the kind of guys who come to you in the name of love, benefit, truth, when actually they don't even love themselves properly, they have no idea why they talk or do what they do, and they just call it love, because the idea-word "love" works out well for them, it lubricates their hollow words, their back-biting politics, their distorted ideas for idols, shallow ambitions in life and their veiled diseases of long term misery that they spread in the long run, as individuals or as in groups. Most of their actions are to confess/mimic this false-love, a "feel good thing" that keeps their minds satiated with the temporal, from time to time, but now, finally I have begun to clearly see such man bullies as victims of the pressure environment rather than as culprits alone, they need intelligent-proactive care and not ill-toned criticism as a corrective measure. The prayer that I practice today is to say that "may we have the eye to see, true love reign".

Yes, we are not here to run away from the darkness, we are not here to curse the darkness behind it's back, we are here to light up the darkness, to admire it's potential, to have faith in it's light, to admire light. My greatest ambition has always been to become a great admirer. To admire is an art of the highest credentials and I do have a long way to go.

As of now, I am planning to write an essay on "Criticism, Narcissism and Cynicism" to straighten things out in my head, but while doing some research on these words, it was such an irony to find out, that for most of the articles on "Criticism", I found the authors to be very critical and when I tried "Narcissism", I found the authors to be highly Narcissist", done with "Cynicism". 

Rarely do you find anyone with the capacity to accurately contradistinguish the human behaviours and tendencies, to understand whether they were for a worthy cause or not. Well, so now on saying this, am I myself becoming the critic, narcissist cynic! Subtle it is indeed. 

So while researching late into the night, I stumbled upon the biography of this man "Michel de Montaigne". He was an influential French Renaissance writer, generally considered to be the inventor of the personal essay. Man, I admire this dude.

Michel Eyquem de Montaigne 

(28 February 1533 – 13 September 1592) 

In order to express the reason for my admiration for this man, I wish to share with you some of his quotes...

"There is nothing more notable in Socrates than that he found time, when he was an old man, to learn music and dancing, and thought it time well spent."

"We can be knowledgeable with other men's knowledge, but we cannot be wise with other men's wisdom." 

"In true education, anything that comes to our hand is as good as a book: the prank of a page-boy, the blunder of a servant, a bit of table talk— they are all part of the curriculum."

"Courtesy is a science of the highest importance. It is, like grace and beauty in the body, which charms at first sight, and lead on to further intimacy and friendship, opening a door that we may derive instruction from the example of others, and at the same time enabling us to benefit them by our example, if there be anything in our character worthy of imitation."

"No matter that we may mount on stilts, we still must walk on our own legs. And on the highest throne in the world, we still sit only on our own bottom."



"The greater part of the world's troubles are due to questions of grammar."



"The easy, gentle, and sloping path… is not the path of true virtue. It demands a rough and thorny road."